Sometimes I think Horse Lover was born into the wrong family. While we do live in the country, and we actually have two horses at our disposal, Horse Lover doesn’t get to ride them near as often as she would like.
Honestly, she hardly ever gets to ride at all. That’s because Handsome Hubby is gone a lot for work, and my horsemanship skills are seriously lacking. Horse Lover actually knows a lot more about horses than I do, but unfortunately horses are just too large and potentially dangerous for a pre-teen to ride without some experienced help and supervision.
Even if Handsome Hubby was around more, I don’t know if Horse Lover would get to ride any more often. Handsome Hubby grew up riding horseback while working cattle, not for leisure. He might not admit it, but he really doesn’t get the intricacies of showing horses in shows or even understand the importance of certain skills such as proper “posting” techniques.
But Handsome Hubby does respect the knowledge Horse Lover has accumulated through reading and watching. He might even admit that Horse Lover may already know more about horsemanship and equitation than he knows.
I’m Not Interested in Horse Back Riding
Meanwhile, I must confess that I really don’t want to add horsemanship to my list of lifetime skills. I feel bad about that sometimes, but I have absolutely no interest in riding horses. That probably makes me a bad parent, but at least I’m honest!
I do feel some pressure to take up horseback riding for my middle daughter’s sake, but I don’t know when I would do it. As the old saying goes, “There are only so many hours in the day,” and I believe I am already trying to cram too many things into those hours.
Thankfully, Horse Lover is somewhat cautious in her horseback riding approach. So we don’t have to worry about her going off and trying to ride horseback without help. Yet her apprehension does have its drawbacks as it keeps her from improving her skills very quickly.
Horse Lover would like to compete in our county 4-H horse show this summer, but she is scared to ride Sadie, our horse with show experience. The horse is well trained, but she likes to test her riders, and she is a bit rusty. Both Horse Lover and Sadie need some training help, but that presents another problem – we don’t have a horse trailer to transport the horse nor do we have the extra hundreds of dollars at our disposal to pay for these services.
Would It Be Easier If We Didn’t Even Have a Horse?
Sometimes I wonder if it would be easier on Horse Lover if we didn’t have a horse at all. Wouldn’t it be easier for her to handle NOT riding if she didn’t even have a horse to ride?
The winter weather has given Handsome Hubby and I a bit of a break from Horse Lover’s pleas for lessons and to ride. After all, even the most dedicated rider can’t get excited about riding in sub-zero temperatures with 40 mph winds and drifting snow. (Did I mention that we don’t have an indoor riding arena, either?)
What Horse Lover lacks in experience, she makes up for in desire. And while I admire her passion and diligence, Handsome Hubby and I may well go crazy when spring arrives and Horse Lover resumes her begging. I’m not sure which will be harder to bear – a long winter with cold, snowy weather or a long spring with a pre-teen daughter persisting to ride her horses. I should know the answer to that question in a few months …
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I was searching for something specific about children and horses and came across your blog which I enjoyed reading…accompanying photo is terrific. And, though I ride myself, I have sat next to many “reluctant” horse moms at the barn so you’re not alone. Keep us posted on how it turns out with Horse Lover…good luck!
Thanks for browsing my site; I’m glad you enjoyed my posts about Horse Lover’s determination to ride. I spent many hours at the barn for her lessons this summer without cell service or wifi Internet access, which meant I couldn’t get any work done while I was waiting. So I did learn some about horses myself whether I wanted to or not, and I got to see how much my daughter truly loves equines — which really did make it worth my time.
I also spent some time browsing and enjoying your site — http://www.equimom.com. I can certainly appreciate how much horsemanship is a truly family affair.
Oh, thank you for checking out the site…it’s new and I have a little editing to do. Hope to get on that soon. I’m glad you’re benefitting at least a little from observing the lessons…it is nice to see the kids interested and excited about something, isn’t it? I’m learning about some other sports myself. 😉
I have your blog on my list so I’ll check back in to see how things are going.